Taking Stock | October

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Oh man, I fell off the wagon last month. Let’s see what’s new… I’m still doing school, just one more month left of this semester. Unfortunately, there’s way too many semesters left to go before I’m done. I’ve also started a part-time Wellness Internship with a local county department and also started a part-time job at my university’s new Money Management center. Since being laid off, it seems like my schedule has constantly changed. Hopefully, it’s leveled out now. Hopefully. Didn’t do anything exciting for Halloween, just stayed home and watched some scary movies. Pretty low key this year.

So here’s a look into my October, another chapter down in the book called 2015.

What was YOUR favorite part of this month? Comment below! If you start your own Taking Stock – leave the URL below – would love to read all about your world 🙂

This month was kicked off by

Making: new friends

Cooking: kale chips

Drinking: coffee!

Reading: Harry Potter and the Half-Blood Prince

Wanting: new clothes

Looking: for answers

Playing: the game of life

Deciding: on new work schedules

Wishing: for the years to slow down

Enjoying: getting soup and wings for date nights

Waiting: to see what happens

Liking: my jobs so far

Wondering: what’s wrong

Loving: being in my pajamas whenever possible

Pondering: what to do

Considering: that I’m still lucky

Buying: nothing lately!

Watching: The Walking Dead, Fear the Walking Dead and American Horror Story: Hotel

Hoping: to maintain my A average this semester

Marveling: at how naïve people are

Cringing: at the folks at Walmart

Needing: some new shirts and winter wear

Questioning: life

Smelling: fall air

Wearing: my hoodies more

Following: my own thoughts lately

Noticing: how happy others seem

Knowing: something good will come one day

Thinking: sad thoughts

Admiring: the differences in other people

Sorting: through donation items

Getting: more sleep!

Bookmarking: financial sites

Coveting: those new shirts!

Disliking: making less money

Opening: doors for myself

Giggling: at cute Dachshund pictures

Feeling: anxious

Snacking: on almonds. I’m addicted!

Wishing: for a sign

Helping: those less fortunate

Hearing: rain

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Kids, Schmids! 5 Things to STOP Saying to People Who Don’t Want Kids.

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no storkI’ve encountered many people who like to give their, unsolicited, opinions and thoughts on my not having children. I don’t ask why you felt the need to have them, I would appreciate if you didn’t feel the need to ask why I don’t. But it’s very simple. I choose not to.

Now, this wasn’t always the case. When I was a little girl, playing with my Barbie dolls, I dreamt that one day I would meet my prince charming, get married and have 2 kids. Why? Because that’s what people were supposed to do. Get married and have kids. So that’s what I was supposed to do, too.

snippedBut the more I really looked at my life and what I truly wanted, I realized that maybe it wasn’t for me. I had no urge or desire to have kids. Would this change? Who knows. Then I met my husband Shawn. He was very upfront about his vasectomy and asked how I felt about kids. I told him I was about 95% sure I didn’t want them. Four years later, here we are. Childless and enjoying life, both content with the decision.

The older we get, the more people like to share their opinions on our childless lifestyle. Here are some of the things that I’ve heard that people need to STOP saying to people who don’t want kids:

1. It’s different when they’re your kids. You’re right. If they’re mine, I can’t give them back at the end of the day. I don’t care for that arrangement.

2. They enrich your life. No, they enrich your life, not mine. And that’s okay. Not everyone’s lives are enriched by a child’s presence. Especially mine.

arrogant3. That’s a selfish decision. Actually, it’s a selfless decision. Shawn and I don’t feel that we could devote the time we would want to, which would be to the detriment of the child. And I’m pretty sure having a child just so someone can take care of us when we’re old and provide missing joy to our lives, even though we don’t really want the child, is considered more selfish.

vacation4. You’re lucky to not have such a busy life. Wtf? Seriously, wtf?! I choose to fill my life with other things besides a child. My and Shawn’s days are jam packed. You know, with full time jobs, school, the gym and maintaining a healthy lifestyle. We also supplement our time with date nights, fun outings and travel. Most days (right now anyway), we’re lucky to watch 20 minutes of tv and relax together at the end of the day. I know people, with kids, who have hours of free time each day. Me? Maybe that 20 minutes. Sometimes not even that. Stop assuming I’m sitting at home eating bon bons with my hours upon hours of free time each night just because I don’t have a kid.

5. You’ll regret it one day. And maybe one day you’ll regret having children. The response to #3 above applies here, too.

So, there are just some of the things to STOP saying to childless couples. This post was sparked by the following article, http://www.cosmopolitan.com/lifestyle/a6152/childless-women/, a must read! The article gives some more great things to stop saying.

Some people, like Shawn and me, have realized that parenting is not for us and continue to enjoy our lives. Thanks, just the same, for your concern.

Sincerely,

Happily Childless

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One + Four = Life | April 12

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Oh man, not going to lie… I’m glad this week is behind me. Nothing bad happened, just felt exhausted, worn out and crabby. The best part of my week was Thurs-Sat because of the fun activities. Below is another installment of what I’ve been up to this week.

Hope you enjoy the glimpse into my life….

glamour mag

Got the new Glamour magazine, always a great day when this arrives! I’m not super trendy or into fashion, nor can I master the makeup tips but I love the magazine just the same. It has some funny articles that I look forward to and some useful ideas or tips that I attempt and (sometimes) get right.

tickets

These are tickets for the shows we went to this week. A total of 5. Friday night we went to The Off Broadway Theater, which puts on a comical “improv/scripted” version of famous movies, tv shows and/or plays. Saturday was light/laser shows at the Clarke Planetarium (3 shows total) followed by comedy at the Bob & Tom Show. All were super fun and in early celebration for Shawn’s birthday tomorrow.

savannah

Our cute little wiener dog, Savannah. She usually looks away when you take her picture. I was lucky to get this one of her looking up. She was sunbathing on our deck before I came outside to snap pictures. She’s too cute!

sea salt

I bought this Not Your Mother’s Beach Babe Texturizing Sea Salt Spray because I’m determined to get those beachy waves that I keep seeing in magazines. I could only find 2 options at Target and this one was cheaper. It sucks! This did nothing different for my hair but make it feel super raggedy (like a hobo) and gross the next day. I enjoy the smell though. I’ve given it a good run this week. Definitely won’t buy again!

If you’re interested in playing along, head over to Pip’s blog and drop your link in her collection + check out other One + Four = Life posts. Drop your link below as well, I would love to check them out!

Oh Glorious Pizza…

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I love pizza. Dominoes, Papa Murphy’s and Tony’s Pizza are my top picks. Those can get pretty pricey and I can easily get out of control with the portions. Did I mention that I love pizza? The last year, the hubby and I have tried different versions of our homemade pizzas and I actually crave these MUCH more than any pizza joint. For our date night in last Friday, we decided to make pizzas. YUUMMMM!!! Here’s a picture of our finished version.

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Oh yes, one of those babies was all mine! 😀 It looks really red because we mixed the sauce, peppers and cheese together before spreading on the tortilla. Topped them with turkey bacon and pepperoni and viola! Individual pizzas that just make my mouth water. Mmmmm….